“Narcissists are allergic to healthy boundaries and fairness. If you question the insensitive things they do or put any limits whatsoever on their bad behavior, you will be targeted for social, professional, or personal obliteration.”
“Narcissists will try to turn all your friends and family against you and convince everyone that THEY are the victims, not you. Since they have a lifetime of experience in pathological lying and playing the victim, they are pretty good at it.
One of the reasons they do this, is their fear of being exposed. The smear campaigns they wage are efforts to keep you in silence about their behavior and what they did to you. When you are in the throes of the aftermath, this can be a very painful experience and the pain can be so great, that you are unable to fight back. This is what the narcissists want.”
“What the narcissists are doing to you, is the very thing they fear. EXPOSURE. The most cruel aspects to their smear campaigns is that they use your reactions in anger, frustration, and fear against you to create a portrait of a mentally unstable person.
One of the clearest indicators you’ve got a personality disordered person on your hands is smear campaigning. Smear campaigners carefully and strategically use lies, exaggerations, suspicions, and false accusations to destroy your credibility. They hide behind a cloak of upstanding heroism and feigned innocence in an attempt to make as many people as possible think their efforts are based not on their vindictiveness, but on upstanding concern.
As a smeared person, what you are most likely guilty of is saying no to someone who is failing to respect your boundaries, refusing to follow the same rules as everyone else, or spreading toxicity and manipulating. Someone entitled. Someone sneaky and vindictive. Someone who is hurting you or taking too much.
While standing up for yourself is the right thing to do, toxic people simply don’t believe you have any right to refuse their mistreatment and they will set out to punish you for having any opinions that differ from theirs.
Virtually all smear campaigners can be counted on to have traits of Cluster B personality disorders.”
~shared from Never Smile at a Crocodile
- Smear Campaigners (iamnotawitch.wordpress.com)
- Smear Campaign 101 from Pierce the Darkness
- Stop Trying
- Telling Your Side versus a Narcissistic Smear Campaign
May 1, 2013 at 12:37 pm
If you haven’t done anything wrong, they’ll lie, fabricate, or put a total spin on something to make you look like a wrongdoer or ‘mentally unstable.’ They’ll use any kind of fallacy in their rhetoric that will get people to fall for their evil campaign against you, and unfortunately, they are often skilled and it works. People who are straight and honest don’t recognize the tactics for what they are. They lack familiarity and awareness because they don’t use them themselves. Knowledge of their methods is the key to resisting the cunning deception of the narcissists and psychopaths. The word is finally getting out! May this post go viral!
January 16, 2014 at 2:01 am
The intelligent abuser becomes a master of insidious innuendos because they are highly effective tools of manipulation, and also, because he knows that it could reflect negatively on himself if he badmouthed his target directly.
February 6, 2014 at 12:57 pm
The best thing to do about these sick, twisted people is to expose their tactics. Bring them out into the light. They’re kind of like bacteria that way: light takes away their ability to spread sickness. Their bent minds cannot be fixed, but educating others about these societal dregs is a worthwhile effort.
- HumanFebruary 6, 2014 at 1:45 pm
Disordered individuals with power are the bane of humanity, and it is these amoral, destructive personality types who seek and occupy positions where they are able to control others. Power without oversight is a recipe for abuse. Transparency must be demanded and their actions need exposure. A counter-force for positive change will become possible when a sufficient number of people see through the deceptions.